A pregnant mum has expressed her frustration after allowing her friend to stay with her and being expected to cook, clean and help babysit her children.
The mum is currently eight months pregnant and also has a two-year-old child, while working a physical job. Her friend, a mum-of-two, is currently going through a break-up and asked to stay with her while her partner moves out of their home.
She arrived to stay with her one and three-year-old children but didn't offer to help tidy up, cook for her own children or put her children to bed and was expecting her friend to do everything for her.
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The mum took to Mumsnet's famed Am I Being Unreasonable [AIBU] forum to seek advice and to ask whether her friend was "being rude or inconsiderate".
In a lengthy and detailed post, the mum penned: "Good friend of mine in the middle of a breakup she lives about 2 hours away from me and asked if she can come stay with her 1 and 3 year olds for a few days while her partner moves out their home.
"Obviously I'm trying to be there for her and the kids best I can so said yes. I'm 8 months pregnant and still working full time also have a 2 year old. I was hoping she would be considerate of those things.
"I've put work off for the next few days to be available to them. I finished a long physical shift of work last night at 8pm ish, picked her up and brought her to my house. She entered the house and plopped herself on the sofa and just watched as I struggled to bring the shopping I picked up for her and her 100s of bags/prams/car seats.
"She then informed me her kids were hungry and I needed to make them something so I made them some popcorn chicken and chips after they all ate she again retreated to the sofa and left me to tidy up [and] wash up all that, bearing in mind [it's] almost 10 by now.
"I made a bed for them up in my son's room and moved my son into my bed but she refused to share a room with her kids and insisted she slept downstairs. I asked about them waking in the night and she told me "if they wake up just go in there put them back in bed and sit with them, they won't take long to fall back to sleep" by this time, my husband came home from work and cut in and told her that's not my job, she will need to get up and do it.
"5am we were woken up to children screaming then 7am to children banging and screaming and then 8am I wake up to find her doing a full makeup and skin routine in the bathroom next to my room with her kids running around upstairs screaming at the top of their lungs."
She added: "AIBU [am I being unreasonable] for thinking she's being rude or inconsiderate? Or do I need to give her a break as she is going through a hard time?"
The mum's post was met with hundreds of responses from fellow Mumsnet users, keen to share their thoughts.
One commented: "Honestly - she is not someone who is going to bring anything to your life - tell her it is not working and she will have to go back to her house and deal with interacting with her partner."
Another said: "Just tell her to leave OP [original poster] just say sorry this isn't going to work out if you can't be helpful or give me a hand. They are your children and I expect you to look after them in these circumstances. She's a CF [cheeky f****r]."
A third said: "No break for her, she's rude and ungrateful. Start planning her leaving now. Especially as she'll expect you to ferry her home."
Another said: "Huh? Is she going through a breakup or have her limbs fallen off? And those kids will want their parent in the night (especially after a breakup). Not you. Yanbu [you are not being unreasonable]."
And another commented: "You're 8 months pregnant and she sat on the sofa and watched you carry everything in? She's a total scumbag and no friend at all. She can go to a hotel."
Another Mumsnet user added: "Wow, she’s very rude and very inconsiderate. Give her a couple of days (and tell her to wash up/get up with her kids etc) then tell her she needs to go home as you’re heavily pregnant and need your rest."
Providing an update, the mum confirmed her husband had arranged to take her friend and her children back to their own home at the weekend, so she "feels better knowing it's going to be over soon". Her friend has also started taking care of her own children.
The mum confessed: "I've learnt my lesson. Next time I'll put my foot down straight away. After I mentioned a few things this morning she's been soo much better."
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