Ending relationships is always a difficult decision—but is the burden usually on women? TikToker Nayrina (@nayrina__) thinks so.
How men go about ending relationships
Her viral clip amassed 7,465 views. In it, she says, “Yeah, something that I think is not real, just based on my experience, is that men break up with women.”
Her evidence for this was that she has “never” been dumped. “I’m sure my exes tell their new girlfriends that they broke up with me because the reason I didn’t want to be with them is because they’re liars, and because they lied to me the same exact way,” she said.
She continued, “I ended things with this guy, and he begged and begged and begged, and then when I didn’t take him back, he texts me, saying, ‘And just for the record, I’m leaving you.'”
After this, she claims her ex sent her texts as if he was dumping her. He then showed people those texts, pretending he was behind the breakup.
“And this is exactly why I didn’t want to be with him, and I knew he had done things like that with his ex too, who also left him, and he was just really embarrassed about it,” she continued.
“I do hear from other girls that they’ve been broken up with,” she said. “But I just, I just haven’t experienced that. I think that the only thing I’ve experienced is breaking up with guys that lie about those kinds of things.”
“The exact reason why I wanted to end things with them in the first place was because they lie so much and can’t take any responsibility or any accountability,” she concluded.
Men gave their perspective in he comments
In the comments, men drew on their own experiences and discussed whether Nayrina’s theory was accurate.
“I never break up with girlfriends and I can still see them even though we’re not together,” one wrote.
“We typically just ‘let you guys go’, behaviors like cheating, distance, lack of interest, or constant friction or fighting to push you away,” another added. “Yeah it’s not direct or correct, but sometimes it’s just easier than breaking hearts.”
A third had a different perspective, writing, “I broke up with her. Because of the point in time we got intimate, I cut everyone else off, but she would not. I’m not an option over someone else; if you have a choice, choose them. So if you’re honestly a loyal person and a respectful person, there’s no reason a man should break up with you, but there’s also no reason for him to cheat or lie to you.”
A fourth shared, “A lot of men need to have someone else to go to from the one they are with, they need to feel like it’s an upgrade.”
While a fifth noted, “I’ve broken up with them… but def been dumped more than I’ve broken up with them.”
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Is it true about relationships?
Research and surveys suggest that women are the main dumpers.
A 2015 YouGov survey found that 76% of women have ended a relationship versus 62% of men. Additionally, men are more likely to have been dumped by women. 84% reported having been dumped compared to 62% of women.
Moreover, a study at Stanford University cited by The Relationship Doc found that women were more likely to end a marriage than men. However, researchers also found that women are less likely to end non-marital relationships.
So, what’s the answer? In short, like any relationship, it’s complicated.
Nayrina didn’t immediately respond to The Mary Sue’s request for comment via TikTok comment.
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