I met a guy on Tinder who lives about two hours away. I’m 24 and he’s 38 and we hit it off immediately. I don’t have family and am struggling to follow my dreams. He has asked me to work for him and to live in one of his properties rent-free. What’s the catch? Whenever he wants it, I need to be available. He is married, with kids and a wife who doesn’t have sex with him and who he wants to divorce. I feel conflicted; I can save money and pay off debts. He he has already bought my plane ticket to relocate. I feel guilty, but can I pass up this opportunity?
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