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Grieving dad's heartfelt plea after daughter is found dead in Leeds

A grieving father is urging everyone to talk openly with their loved ones whenever they are struggling, after his daughter took her own life in Leeds.

University of Leeds student Melina Bushell was found dead in her flat on January 27 and her father Dean says there were "so many opportunities to save her".

In a heartfelt statement published on Twitter, he said his 20-year-old daughter had isolated herself from friends and family and resorted to suicide when she "felt utterly alone".

He wrote: "It was clear this had been planned. There were notes, which were utterly devastating to read, describing her thoughts and rationale that brought her to this decision.

"She had pushed everyone away, friends, family, teachers and mentors.

"To each individual, it seemed it was only them who had been isolated, no one else was aware of the others being blanked.

"I thought it was just me, or just her family, we had been struggling to contact her, she had become evasive, and non co-operative.

"We would arrange to meet and she wouldn't turn up, ignored my phone calls and messages. When we did meet up she would apologise and say she was just struggling with uni work and needed to focus on that.

"She became very good at convincing us she was fine.

"It is clear now, she was just telling me, showing me, what I wanted to hear.

"Underneath she was in turmoil. It was the same with the rest of the family, and all her friends. No one was aware of how bad the situation had deteriorated, how low she was feeling."

He said she had various worries, about things like money and "boy trouble", and eventually she "convinced herself she had become too much of a burden and an inconvenience to us all".

"She couldn't have been more wrong," he wrote. "All of the issues she was dealing with could have been dealt with, if only she had discussed them with us, or a professional."

'There were so many opportunities to save her'

He added: "I have spoken to everyone who knew her, putting the final moments of her life together.

"I have gotten to know her friends, her life away from home. I have seen the joy she brought to them and also how well she hid from them too.

"And having all this information, it just multiplies the grief. Knowing there were so many opportunities to save her.

"When she was at her absolute lowest, when in her room, even though she was surrounded by friends and family, despite the love she had, she still felt utterly alone.

"We say our final goodbye next week. Seven days to prepare for the day no parent should ever go through.

'Please, please, please, if you are ever feeling low, and we all do, share you thoughts and feelings with your loved ones'

"And finally, we are talking. Amongst friends and family, we are talking to each other, openly and honestly. No bottling up emotions and feelings, let it out.

"I have asked for counselling too. I need it. I am the absolute worst for storing it all up and saying nothing.

"Time to get it out. It's the very least I can do.

"And please, please, please, if you are ever feeling low, and we all do, share you thoughts and feelings with your loved ones, your family, your friends. You will never be considered a burden.

"Talk to someone. And if you know some one in that situation, offer your ear, your time.

"It may just save their life.

"Rest in Peace Melina."

Melina's family have set up a fundraising page to raise money for the mental health charity Mind.

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