A woman has opened up about her strained relationship with her daughter-in-law after she was forced to give back the key to their home for overstepping boundaries. The mother-in-law claims she is as helpful as can be with her grandchildren but admits she caused some controversy after she started changing their clothes as she likes them 'dressed a certain way'.
She explained that she has moved closer to the family to be nearer the kids, makes herself available for babysitting and helps out with food shopping but the relationship between the two women is still sour. She also admitted that she previously let herself into their house to clean bits and pieces as she 'enjoys' it, the Mirror reports.
The grandparent says her daughter-in-law thinks she's being too overbearing which is why she is no longer welcome in their home but she still can't see what she's done wrong. Taking to NetMums to explain the hurtful situation, she asked other users for advice on the situation.
In the post, she wrote: "So I'm the mother-in-law that seems to cause so many issues on forums-I can't seem to do anything right and I want to know-what do you actually want from your mother-in-law? I have moved house to be closer to my daughter-in-law so I can help with the children.
"I went round when she was in labour, cleaned up, did her ironing, filled the fridge. I do let myself in sometimes and do bits and pieces of cleaning-I like cleaning!"
She added that she buys toys and clothes for the children and changes them before she takes them out. She continued: "Things are very frosty between us. I have been asked for my key back because I'm interfering too much".
"I really don't know what I'm doing wrong-I would have loved someone doing all these things for me when mine were little! I feel really hurt by this."
Other users flocked to the comments to give their advice as many told her they felt she could have been a bit too much for the mother to deal with. One person replied: "The thing is that saying you 'like children to be dressed in a certain way' is one thing when it is your own children, and quite something else when it is someone else's children's clothes that you are changing."
Another wrote: "You let yourself in to the house unannounced and change her children's clothes, you are a grandparent not their mother so although you think you are helping you're actually stepping over the mark here."
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