A woman has revealed that her boyfriend asked her to pay half of his mortgage after they moved in together and he found out she earned more than him.
The 23-year-old woman said she has been dating her 29-year-old boyfriend for 18 months, and now she's moving into his place.
Speaking on Reddit , she said: “He’s a doctor and I’m a social media manager. He told me how much he makes and it was more or less what I expected.
But the man was bowled over to learn that she earns 150% of his current salary.
She said: "Once the initial shock wore off, he said that’s great, because now I can pay half of his mortgage.
"I was a little taken aback by that. I mean, it’s not like I wasn’t going to contribute to the household at all. I would’ve been happy to buy groceries, pay utilities and cook and clean because my workload is much lighter than his. I told him this and that I wouldn’t pay half his mortgage."
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Half of the mortgage payments would be three times her current rent , she added.
"I told him that that’s a little unfair because if we break up, he gets a house and I’m left with nothing, and that if that’s going to be the case I would rather stay in my apartment," she went on.
The woman even offered up a compromise.
She said: "His house is sparsely decorated to say the least. He has two one-seat couches, a table that’s too big and a TV that’s too small. Oh, and a bed.
"I told him that I would furnish the entire house and get the groceries, cook and clean, and we’d go half on utilities. But he still insisted that I pay half of the mortgage."
The man argued that if she was going to be paying rent anyway, paying his mortgage would be the same thing.
The woman added: "My boyfriend is a smart man so I don’t know if he doesn’t see the logic (or lack thereof in my opinion) of what he’s saying or if I’m being dumb and it’s not a big deal.
"I would’ve been happy to pay half of his rent. It’s not about the money. It’s about the principle."
Posters in the Reddit thread mostly took the woman's side.
One said: "Your boyfriend isn’t even interested in figuring out what your reasonable portion of rent would be. He just wants to cash in on your help. He sounds entitled."
Another Redditor said: "She just wants to live with her partner, but he comes with this expensive house she didn't pick and doesn't want to pay for.
"Even if she makes more she is allowed to say 'that is too expensive for me, I would rather stay in my apartment and put that money in my savings'."
But others took the man's side, saying things like: "She should pay rent. It’s fair to pay half and half."
