A woman has described how she was shamed at a family funeral over her husband's 'inappropriate' choice of outfit.
The pair were attending the woman's grandmother’s funeral on a warm day recently.
The husband didn’t have a black suit or jacket, and therefore opted to wear a white shirt, black tie, black trousers and shoes.
However, the woman has revealed online that her father raised the issue with her after the funeral - citing her husband’s clothes as ‘inappropriate’.
The father continued to blast his son-in-law’s attire and told his daughter it shows her husband ‘hasn’t been brought up properly’.
The mum shared the story on parenting forum mumsnet and asked whether no suit jacket at a funeral was a faux pas.
The post read: “We recently went to my grandmother’s funeral. My husband has never had to wear a suit for work so he only has one suit in blue that he wears to weddings.
"For the funeral he wore black suit trousers, white shirt, black tie and black shoes.
"All ironed, shoes polished, etc. I thought he looked smart and respectful. It was a very warm day so no coat.
“A couple of weeks later my dad said to me that he felt my husband was dressed inappropriately because he wasn’t wearing a full suit.
"He said it was highly disrespectful, that multiple people had commented on it, and the thing that upset me most; he said it showed that my husband hasn’t been brought up properly.
“I was genuinely stunned. I haven’t told my husband as he would be mortified if he knew. There we lots of men at the funeral wearing old ill-fitting suits, or jumpers and chinos, which to me looked a lot less smart. Is no suit jacket at a funeral a big faux pas?”
Users were supportive and told her there was nothing wrong with the outfit, according to reports in Birmingham Mail.
One wrote: “I think your dad is totally out of order, projecting something. Sounds like your husband was dressed fine. I really don’t think it matters what people are wearing at a funeral as long as it’s dark and smart.”
A second said: “Your dad is out of order. Your dh’s outfit sounded fine and perfectly respectable.”
A third advised: “What your DH wore sounds fine. Funerals are a bit like weddings in that emotions run high. Your DF is grieving and lashing out. Be there for him and cut him a bit of slack., Don’t tell your DH. He was fine. Sorry about your loss.”
A fourth wrote: “Don’t tell your husband what was said but really give it to your father badly!”
And a fifth added: “I think there is nothing wrong with what your husband wore. At my husband’s funeral, I do not recall what anyone wore. I do recall the people who made feeble excuses not to attend.
"I don’t think your dad can have been that upset at the loss of your grandmother if he had the headspace to notice what people were wearing.”
