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Dad struggling with depression following break-up spent the weekend 'drinking heavily to numb the pain and help him forget' - he was found dead days later, inquest told

A dad struggling with depression following a break-up spent the weekend 'drinking heavily to numb the pain and help him forget' before being found dead at his home days later, and inquest heard.

Bolton Coroners' Court was told 29-year-old Thomas Deadman had two children with Victoria Barrington.

Their relationship came to an end after 10 years in May.

In a statement, read by senior coroner for Manchester west Timothy Brennand, Mr Deadman's mum Diane described her son as 'impulsive'.

She said he had 'fallen into the culture of having a couple of pints after work'.

Mrs Deadman said her son's drinking increased during the first lockdown.

She suggested this caused arguments with his partner and that he 'always thought Victoria was having a go at him'.

By the time they broke up, Miss Barrington had 'done all she could to help him', according to Mr Deadman's mother.

She told the court she believed Miss Barrington broke up with her son as a 'wake up call'.

"Victoria had asked us to help him due to his alcohol issues," Mrs Deadman said.

"Victoria was very worried about Thomas and would ring us telling us this.

Bolton Coroners' Court (M.E.N.)

"Victoria really did all she could to help him, but he would not listen or take advice. "

After temporarily living with his parents, Mr Deadman moved into a house in Atherton.

Mrs Deadman added: "He finally got the keys and I told him he should show Victoria how he was trying and willing to change for the benefit of all the family. I was sure things would sort themselves out."

Mr Deadman continued to drink, the court heard.

He visited Meadowview Surgery on August 3.

A doctor said Mr Deadman told him he was drinking an average of eight cans of beer a night. He said he was feeling down, due to being separated from his partner.

Mr Deadman denied having any thoughts of self-harm, the court heard, and he was referred for counselling.

On August 14, Miss Barrington told Mr Deadman she was in a new relationship, the court heard.

"That broke Thomas," his mother said.

"That evening I stayed with him at his house. He spent all weekend drinking heavily to numb the pain and help him forget."

On August 18, Mrs Deadman rang her son's doctor to tell them she was concerned about his depression and that he had started to express suicidal thoughts.

Mrs Deadman said she was worried his anti-depressants were having a negative impact on his mental health.

Following a counselling call, a face-to-face appointment was set up for 5.20pm the next day - August 19.

That morning, Mrs Deadman saw her son on his way to work at around 8am.

By the evening, she became concerned he had not rang her. That, she said, was 'out of the ordinary'.

Mrs Deadman went to her son's house and knocked on the door, but there was no answer.

His father got a ladder to climb up to the window, where he noticed a 'cardboard sign', which detailed where they could find a 'message'.

Police were called and forced entry into the house.

Sadly, Mr Deadman was found hanged.

There was no evidence he had taken excessive medication, the court heard. A toxicology report suggested there was no other compelling evidence that any other alcohol or drug could be implicated in his death.

Following a post mortem, the medical cause of Mr Deadman's passing was recorded as suspension by ligature.

Coroner Mr Brennand recorded conclusion of suicide, stating: "Due to the substance of the notes, the degree of preparation, and the immediate history, I'm satisfied this was an intentional act."

He added: "Factors lead me to believe that this was not a cry for help rather than a deliberate, concerted, careful and considered act on the part of the deceased.

"It's quite apparent to me that his mother, who was a very coherent, sensitive, understanding and loving network of care and support. She had, with others, attempted to try and help her son through this most difficult time.

"I hope it is any comfort that it's my view that no mother could have done any more for her son in such a troubling and difficult period of his life."
 

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