A new dad has sparked a fierce debate after demanding his wife do all their baby's night time nappy changes because he needs his sleep.
The man says his wife is breastfeeding their five-week-old so she is doing all the night time feeds, which are three or four times per night with the baby feeding for 40 minutes at a time.
However, he thinks she should also take care of nappy changes too since she is up anyway, and leave him to rest.
Since the baby was born, the husband has also been getting up so he can change the baby's nappies, giving the mum time to refresh and rehydrate following the feeds.
However he is now saying that system is unfair on him and he says at times, the couple will even argue about whether the child even needs changed at all, writes The Mirror.
Posting on Reddit's Am I The A**hole forum he asked for feedback on his domestic conundrum, saying: "My partner thinks that I should do all the night time diaper changes since she's breastfeeding. Her argument is that since she's nursing day and night, it's only fair.
"She says she needs time to go to the bathroom, drink water, etc, while I am changing the diaper. In her view: I am often grouchy, need to be asked multiple times to get up, and sometimes argue if he even needs to be changed."
The man also says when he comes off parental leave and goes back to work in construction, he will "need a full eight hours' sleep."
He added: "She will be on leave for the next 18 months. We go to bed at 9pm, and I get up with our dogs at 6 am and she's up with the baby an hour or two later."
but if he was looking for sympathy, he came to the wrong place as Reddit users told him to "grow up".
One said: "Your wife is exhausted, physically and due to lack of sleep. You have no excuse especially while you’re on parental leave. She does need to use the bathroom, drink water, whatever - to take care of herself, so she can take care of your son.
"Parenthood is about shared responsibilities and partnership. You need to grow up and share the burden. There’s only room for one baby in your family, and it’s not you.
"Time to be a dad. It’s hard, but tough s*** — this is your moment to decide what kind of father, and ultimately husband, you want to be."
Another added: "Newsflash, your days of eight hours sleep are over for at least a few years. My kids are five and eight and sometimes they still wake up in the night, thankfully not often but you have to be there when they do.
"Your 'need' for eight hours sleep is bulls***. I was a fitness instructor teaching early morning classes and doing PT sessions on virtually no sleep at all during the dreaded sleep regression phases, but I got on with it because I had to, and you will too.
"You really need to rethink your outlook on being a parent as if you don't your baby mum is gonna hate you."
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