A woman was left 'crying' after the way her husband treated her following an operation, which she only had because he'd promised to take her to the hospital and 'take care of her' afterward as she recovered.
But, he broke his promise when he threw the situation back in her face, fuming at hat he 'rearranged his whole day because of her surgery', branding her as 'very ungrateful'. He told her 'not to call him if she needed anything because she doesn't appreciate it'.
She took to Reddit's 'Am I the a**hole' forum to ask whether she was being unreasonable to expect her husband to take care of her properly after she recovered - especially because she'd had some 'complications' during the procedure.
She wrote: "I (f33) had same-day surgery. I was not allowed to drive myself to or from the hospital and was to have someone with me for 24 hours following surgery.
"I asked my husband (m33) to take me there and to take care of me. He agreed, which was a big reason I went ahead it. My husband runs a busy company and it is difficult for him to step away.
"Bit of background: we have 4 children together under 6 in our blended family, and childcare duties fall mainly to me. I also work full-time. I just recently gave birth to our son. My husband begrudgingly takes me to the hospital.
"Once I am settled, I said it was fine for him to leave as long as he was back when I woke up from surgery. I called him an hour or so later to let him know I was going back and they would call him when I was going into recovery, before they brought me back to the room.
"I get out of recovery and was obviously very loopy from anesthesia. My husband wasn't there but the nanny was. I had to stay longer than I expected because I had some small complications afterwards. My husband finally got there as I was getting dressed and being put in the wheelchair to leave.
"He was annoyed with me for calling and texting asking where he was. He takes me home in silence. When we get back, I finally eat some chicken soup and the nanny suggests she take the kids so I can nap for a few hours. I agree and ask my husband not to go far.
"I woke up shortly after they leave vomiting, and i needed my medicine, which is in my husband's vehicle and he's not here. I call him and it goes straight to voicemail repeatedly.
"I finally get ahold of him and he is working in the next county over, explaining he's going to finish up and then head home. It's a 30-minute drive and then he continues to work for a while.
"When he gets home, I'm crying and he's very upset with me. We argue but then the nanny brings home the baby about 5 minutes after he gets there. He explained he rearranged his whole day because of my surgery and I'm very ungrateful.
"I explain that I'm not even supposed to be alone and he left to go to a county over and took my medicine with him. I stay up most of the night caring for the baby alone and he left early this morning, saying not to call him if I need anything because I don't appreciate it anyways. Am I the a**hole for being upset?"
People were shocked at the behaviour of her husband, saying that he should've been there for her more as it was a one-off, and she'd had surgery.
One wrote: "I had surgery with a baby and my husband picked me up, looked after me and watched my kid whilst I recovered. No complaining, just being considerate."
Another fumed: "I had surgery when I had a 10 week old and my husband not only stayed home to help me, but he got my mother to come and stay with us once he had to go back to work. This is what husbands do - they make sure their wives and children are cared for when needed."
"The nanny sounds like they'd make a better husband", someone joked.
"This man is not going to change his ways. He doesn't give a damn", one raged.
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