This couple say they have saved their toxic relationship by inviting strangers to join their relationship until they found the perfect extra lover.
Doctor Yohandry Cruz Ávila from Havana, Cuba, got together with his girlfriend Sheyza Menéndez Tase in medical school in 2016.
Yohandry and Sheyza soon found that their relationship was marred with toxic arguments, jealousy and regular squabbling.
They both felt something missing in their relationship so tried threesomes, swingers and even an open relationship.
But Yohandry and Sheyza wanted a committed relationship with another person and found a perfect match in neonatology nurse Lisandra Pozo Estrada.
The throuple have now been together for a year and a half and wish to one day get married and have children of their own.
“Going forward we would like to marry each other at least symbolically, we want two children, one from Sheyza and the other from Lisandra,” says Yohandry.
“Our children will know that they have three parents with the same duties and responsibilities towards them.
“They will be loved equally without distinction of any kind. They will be raised as happy people, without stereotypes or hatred for anything or anyone.
“They will be educated to respect the diversity of our world, respect the rights of others and that they must be themselves above all else.
“In our country, family law is being reformed and one of the things that were excluded was poly families, we knew it could not be otherwise. Cuba is still discussing the legalisation of same-sex relationships.”
The throuple claims that polyamory provides them with the flexibility to make their own rules on what love is for them.
“We are still learning what polyamory means for us and I believe that our relationship is always improving,” says Yohandry.
“For us it means freedom and we do not mean the freedom to be with whomever you want, it is the freedom to transform the relationship according to the needs and concerns of its members.
“Polyamory comes to destroy all that they taught us that love was, it gives us new ways of relating, as options for romantic love that many do not make happy.”
Yohandry, Sheyza and Lisandra claim their relationship dynamic is like any other.
“We live alone in an apartment and we share all the costs between the three of us, rent, food, everything,” Yohandry says.
He continues: “Sex is very flexible, we can be the three or just two when the third is not there or simply does not feel like sex.”
“People should explore and find the best way to live their relationships and not remain tied to the established models."
