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China blogger highlights generational tensions over marriage

Zhao Yuqing looks at a Chinese character "Fu", which means good fortune, on a poster in the elevator of her apartment, in Beijing, China, January 25, 2017. REUTERS/Muyi Xiao

BEIJING (Reuters) - A Chinese female blogger who posed as a man's Lunar New Year girlfriend says her experience illustrates the generational tensions over finding a marriage partner in China.

Zhao Yuqing, a recent law graduate, said she was intrigued by the websites and mobile apps aimed at single people looking to hire an instant partner whom they can present to relatives during the new year holidays.

Zhao Yuqing feeds her dogs before she leaves for Wang Quanming's hometown, in Beijing, China, January 25, 2017. REUTERS/Muyi Xiao

During the holidays, single men and women are often subjected to lectures from family members keen on reinforcing the importance of marriage and securing the family bloodline.

Some singles resort to hiring fake girlfriends and boyfriends through date-for-hire apps and websites.

Educated and attractive twenty-somethings can command fees of 3,000 yuan to 10,000 yuan ($436 to $1,453) a day over the busy festive period, according to mobile apps and websites seen by Reuters.

Zhao Yuqing takes a selfie with her dogs before sending them to a pet care center and leaving for Wang Quanming's hometown, in Beijing, China, January 26, 2017. REUTERS/Muyi Xiao

   

NO KISSING

Yuqing said in her online advertisement that she wanted the experience of being a holiday companion and would only charge for the transport to the person's home town.

Zhao Yuqing rides in a car on her way to Beijing airport for a flight to Wang Quanming's hometown, in Beijing, China, January 26, 2017. REUTERS/Muyi Xiao

Out of a pool of 700 respondents, Yuqing chose Wang Quanming, a website operator in his early thirties from the rural south.

"He is being pressured to find a wife and his need to rent a girlfriend is real," Yuqing told a photojournalist who approached her and Wang Quanming after seeing the online ad and learning about their agreement.

The photojournalist accompanied the couple for the duration of the trip. 

Zhao Yuqing hugs her dogs on the night before she leaves for Wang Quanming's hometown, in Beijing, China, January 25, 2017. REUTERS/Muyi Xiao

Before setting off last January for Wang's family home in the hills of Fujian, they hammered out details of the false long-distance relationship to tell his parents, and set ground rules for the home visit.

There was to be no kissing, sleeping together or drinking alcohol, but she was ready to help with household chores, Yuqing and Quanming agreed in a handwritten contract seen by Reuters.

When the couple arrived, Quanming's mother, Nong Xiurong, tried to make Yuqing feel at home and respected her son's request to leave the two alone and not ask questions about their relationship, according to Yuqing, Quanming and his mother.

Zhao Yuqing reacts as she leaves her dogs at a pet care centre before leaving for Wang Quanming's hometown, in Beijing, China, January 26, 2017. REUTERS/Muyi Xiao

After the visit, Yuqing returned to Beijing and wrote a blog post on the social media app WeChat, saying she had a "wonderful experience" at Quanming's home.

 

"I WASN'T ANGRY"

Zhao Yuqing (C) checks her mobile phone during a meal with Wang Quanming's family in Anxi, Fujian province, China, January 27, 2017. REUTERS/Muyi Xiao

Quanming said he decided to end the deception because he feared it could make the situation worse with his mother. He sent Yuqing's blog to Xiurong.

In a telephone interview, Xiurong told Reuters she was not upset by what happened and said she was moved by Yuqing's blog.

"At the start, I didn't know they were cheating me," she said. "I'm over 50. I don't understand what these young people get up to, but I wasn't angry."

Zhao Yuqing, Wang Quanming (C) and Wang's brother ride in a car after leaving Wang's family home in Anxi, Fujian province, China, January 30, 2017. REUTERS/Muyi Xiao

Nevertheless, Xiurong said she still worries about her son finding a partner.

"My mother's core demand for me to marry early still exists," Quanming added.

For Yuqing, the experience highlighted how hard it is to resolve the generational tensions over marriage in China, where traditional notions remain strong in rural areas.

Zhao Yuqing takes pictures of fireworks on the eve of Spring Festival at Wang Quanming's hometown in Anxi, Fujian province, China, January 27, 2017. REUTERS/Muyi Xiao

"The special situation in the village magnifies everything," Yuqing told Reuters. "They face a greater urgency to marry, so that makes it much harder to find a truly suitable other half."

Click http://reut.rs/2uEvt2L for a photo essay on Yuqing's journey as a fake girlfriend.

Zhao Yuqing talks to Wang Quanming on her phone after her plane lands in the city of Quanzhou, in Fujian province, China, January 26, 2017. REUTERS/Muyi Xiao

(Editing by Clarence Fernandez and Darren Schuettler)

Zhao Yuqing points to a pig during a visit to a farm in Wang Quanming's hometown, in Anxi, Fujian province, China, January 27, 2017. REUTERS/Muyi Xiao
Wang Quanming's parents pose for a photo in front of their house in Anxi, Fujian province, China, January 29, 2017. REUTERS/Muyi Xiao
Zhao Yuqing and Wang Quanming (R) play with a dog at the apartment where Zhao stayed for a night in the city of Quanzhou Fujian province, China, January 26, 2017. REUTERS/Muyi Xiao
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