While there's no written rule for wedding guests to wear a particular attire for the special day - other than formalwear - it's common courtesy that bridesmaids and groomsmen wear matching outfits.
Despite it not matching the other bridesmaid's accessories, one bridesmaid decided to wear a touching necklace for her father who passed following his sudden loss.
Taking to popular forum site Reddit, the anonymous bride admitted that while she was torn by the decision, she allowed her pal to wear the necklace for the remainder of the day - but made a noticeable change during the wedding photos.
She explained: "My husband and I just came back from our honeymoon in Japan a week later and I got the wedding photos - my sister was photographer since she has her own business and wanted to gift us all the photos and videos."
The woman went on: "One of my bridesmaids (Hannah)'s dad passed sadly, freak accident before the wedding. She has a necklace he bought her a few years ago and she wanted to wear it on our wedding day, something she asked on the day. It didn't go with her dress at all, way too loud and long and I thought it detracted from her dress.
"However, I didn't see this as a huge hill to die on since I've read about editing wedding photos online and that it's a way for everyone to be happy. So, she wore it in the photos and I asked my sister if she could do me a solid and edit two versions of the photo - one copy with the necklace in for Hannah and one with the necklace without for me."
The woman went on to explain that she decorated her dining room with one of the edited photos of her and her bridesmaids. While she thought that she was causing no harm at the time, this didn't sit well with her pal.
She explained further: "Tom and I threw a BBQ to thank everyone once more for coming to the wedding. It was all going well until Hannah saw the edited photo without the necklace framed and on my wall. I explained and told her that I thought it was a nice way to compromise since I did say it didn't go with the outfit at the wedding.
"She wasn't happy and said the necklace meant a lot to her and it was rude to have it edited out. I apologised but pointed out that we gave her photos where she was wearing a necklace and that I wanted a photo with my original vision on my wall and there are photos of her where she is wearing the necklace.
"It was just this one photo of all my bridesmaids and me in front of our venue that I had edited. All of the bridesmaid's dresses were handmade by me to match my theme and as a nice memento and part of their thanks for being in my bridal party.
"If I'd known she wanted to wear the necklace, I would have designed her dress differently. She left pretty quickly after that and has refused to answer my calls or messages of me trying to apologise."
Seeking advice, the woman questioned: "Was this an a**hole move? She still got to wear the necklace to the wedding and has photos of her in it also but I wanted the outfits I made for my bridesmaids to be on show, not her dad's necklace."
Since sharing her thread online, the woman's post has raked in over 550 comments to date - where people assured the woman that she wasn't being unreasonable by editing the photo.
One person wrote: "Not the a**hole - there's honestly nothing wrong with you having an edited copy of the photo, but it was a little soon for your friend, is all."
Someone else agreed: "I don't think it's necessary to put the original copy on your wall if you don't like it. it was your wedding, and you presented her with a very fair, and kind compromise by letting her wear it at your wedding."
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