Weddings are stressful events to plan and it’s always nice to have help from a wedding planner or loved ones who are willing to lend a hand.
But one bride-to-be was so adamant on having her bridesmaids assist her in planning her entire ceremony that she told her best friend she was being dumped as a bridesmaid when she showed “very little interest” in the big day.
The woman claimed her friend “always has an excuse” as to why she can’t make planning meetings, but later revealed the friend is actually “heavily pregnant” and expecting her baby two weeks after the wedding.
In a Reddit post, the future bride explained: “I have been best friends with Lottie since we were 5.
“I am getting married in a month's time. I asked Lottie to be my bridesmaid and she accepted.
“A few weeks after she accepted she told me she was pregnant and due two weeks after my wedding. I said that was fine and I didn't mind that she would be heavily pregnant.
“I keep asking her for help arranging things, and planning things but she always has an excuse.
“I understand that she is pregnant but I feel that she's not really that interested in my wedding. She hasn't been asking me any questions about what I am doing and showing very little interest when I try and talk about it.”
The woman eventually “had enough” of her friend having other things to do and removed her from the wedding party.
And now, she’s struggling to understand why her friend is “really upset” and doesn’t want to come to the wedding at all.
She added: “Last night I had enough and told her I no longer wanted her to be my bridesmaid.
“Her pregnancy has not been an easy one, which is why I feel like I might be the a**hole.
“If she didn't feel like she was up to the task she should have told me.
“She is really upset and has said that she's no longer coming to the wedding.”
Fellow Reddit users left hundreds of comments on the post, with many of them pointing out how “self-involved” the bride is for not understanding that her friend is dealing with struggles of her own.
One wrote: “You’re being self-involved to a staggering degree. This is your best friend of 17 years.
“I get it’s your special day, but if she’s having a hard pregnancy you could at least have asked her if she’d like to pass on bridesmaiding and do a reading or something.
“Made it seem like you value her involvement in your wedding and not just the unpaid help with wedding chores.”
While another added: “How can you treat your friend like that?
“She isn't showing interest? Have you stopped to think it's because she's giving birth in six weeks and has things to prepare?
“Your day is a single affair. She has to prepare herself, her home and everything else for another human who will depend on her to live.
“You saying she's had a hard pregnancy only makes it abundantly clearer that she's had other, more important things to worry about.”
And a third said: “The world does not revolve around you and your wedding. Her and her own baby's health comes first.”
