It's customary to buy a gift for the newlywed couple when you go to a wedding, and usually, the bride and groom will have a registry of items that will give you an idea of some of the things they would like. But for the couple getting married, it can be a real pain when you say that you need new wine glasses and end up with three sets because people bought the same gift.
That's why one bride has asked her wedding guests to bring receipts with their gifts when they attend her wedding if they're choosing to buy something that isn't on the registry, as it will help her and her new husband sort through what they actually need - and return anything they don't want or have too many of.
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But the bride's message has been shared on Reddit and has split people's opinions, with some suggesting that publicly declaring your intent to return gifts is "tacky".
On a card included with her invitations, the woman had penned: "Your presence at our wedding is the greatest gift of all. However, if you wish to honour us with a gift, you may scan the QR code which will take you to our wedding website linked with our registry.
"If you buy a gift that is not on the registry, we ask that you please include a gift receipt. All gifts will be thankfully received."
Some commenters on the post weren't a fan of the wording of her post, as they said it was wrong to put the request directly onto the invitation - with some even claiming that mentioning the gift registry at all was out of line.
One person said: "I mean yeah, people typically would and should include a gift receipt in case of doubles. But how tacky to put right on the invitation.
"When there isn't a registry or all the items are already purchased off the registry, I've gifted thoughtful handmade items. Like a beautiful cutting board with their names etched. I didn't ask the Etsy creator for a gift receipt!"
While another added: "You never mention or request anything to do with gifts on a wedding invitation. Not a link to a registry, not a mention about not gifting."
But others were on her side, stating that it's not a bad idea to return gifts that you have no use for, especially if you end up with multiple of the same item.
Someone posted: "I don't disagree. We added a set of wine glasses and a set of martini glasses to our registry and got 3 boxes of each. I don't need that many glasses! No gift receipts so we couldn't exchange them for towels or something. I use them, but I could have also used towels or something."
As someone else agreed, noting: "I don't think asking for a receipt itself is tacky. Nor would I be offended if someone sent this to me. What do people expect the couple to do if they end up with 3 toasters? If they can't return it, it's gonna get sold on eBay or donated. Might as well leave the receipt so the couple can exchange it for something they don't have and need."
"This feels tacky but I sort of get it," a third wrote, "we got four sets of drinking horns. There were none on our registry. We loved the first one and even the second set, but we are only two people and eight drinking horns is too many."
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