As many people spending years intricately planning every last detail of their wedding day, tensions can run high when guests go off-piste by ditching the dress code or derailing the itinerary. Some bride and grooms take a more relaxed approach to their special day, while others agonise over every element of their nuptials, leaving anyone who goes rouge in the firing line for serious scorn.
One woman has given her mum a dramatic ultimatum after she dyed her hair just days before her daughter's wedding. The colour of the mum's tresses left the bride-to-be seething, as it defied her bridal party colour scheme that her mother had originally agreed to.
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Taking to Reddit to share her wedding nightmare, the anonymous bride explained how she desperately wanted one particular colour scheme for her big day in a lengthy post.
She said: "Early on in the planning of my wedding I mentioned to my bridal party that I really like a cohesive wedding colour scheme - not necessarily the same colour on everyone because I think that can be really unreasonable, but at least the same colour palette.
"For me, I generally hate bright colours and I love soft colours on warm days. With this in mind, I was encouraged to give an extensive pastel colour palette (8 shades) and kindly request that my guests followed it."
Everything seemed to go swimmingly after this request, with her close friends and family supporting the decision.
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Justifying the wedding rules, the woman said: "My mum was my biggest supporter ('your wedding, your rules' etc) and none of my bridesmaids thought it was unreasonable so I went with it.
"All in all, I decided I was not yet a complete Bridezilla."
The bride's dream day quickly descended into chaos when her mother decided she wanted to change up her look for the big event.
"My mum came to me a couple of months ago explaining that she would like her hair professionally cut and dyed before my wedding day.
"She's a box dye girl usually, and she was happy to use it on this occasion, but she asked if I would mind paying for her to go to my wedding stylist (continuity etc) and I agreed.
Insisting that finances weren't the issue, the woman said: "I'm paying for the wedding myself and I have more money than my parents, so I had absolutely no issue doing this for her."
The bride-to-be was horrified when her mum revealed 'bright red' hair just days before the wedding, as her strict colour scheme dreams soon slipped from her grasp.
The woman shares in the Reddit post that her mum had plumped for a similar hair colour 15 years ago, but admitted that "I hated it then and I hate it now".
"It not only looks awful on her (it's literally not her shade at all), but it massively draws the eye," the bride raged.
The dramatic hair change has driven a wedge between the pair in a devastating blow to the wedding plans.
The woman explained: "She asked if I liked it and I just started crying. I know I sound pathetic but I had a whole vision for my wedding that my mum encouraged and supported 100% even when I doubted how practical it would be and now she's going to stick out like a sore thumb on my wedding day.
"It also looks awful with her dress. I told her this but she said that I'm being totally unreasonable by trying to control her looks.
"I was p****d off, so I told her I would pay for her to get it fixed to a neutral colour and then she could come to my wedding. She left and hasn't spoken to me since then."
Hundreds of people have flooded to the comments section of the Reddit post to share their disdain at the bride's savage ultimatum.
One said: "Wedding colour schemes are for decorations and the wedding parties clothes and pretty much nothing else. And certainly not people's hair colour".
While another argued: "You're the a****** if you would exclude your own mom from your wedding because of her hair color [sic].
"Someday, she wont be around and you will regret being so petty for the sake of "color [sic] coordination" on a single day".
Others tried to be more understanding of the bride's predicament, and pointed out that the mum's colour choice is even more frustrating given the daughter paid for the salon appointment.
"I'm on the fence about this. Normally I’d say you shouldn’t be controlling your guests appearances, but it’s also a bit strange she did this right before the wedding and you paid for it. Maybe a hat is a good compromise?" someone suggested.
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