A daughter has had to enforce a strict rule to enable her mum to come to her wedding, but it has caused a rift between them. In a post on Reddit, the 36-year-old daughter explained that her mum and her mum's wife have always been big drinkers and have caused issues at family events in the past because of it.
"Long story short, our mother does not handle her alcohol well & can be a mean drunk (especially to me)," explained the soon-to-be bride. "I initially did not invite them to our wedding, as we were not speaking due to my Mother's drinking & some less than favorable comments she made."
However, over time the daughter had decided that her mother should be at the wedding and so decided to invite her, just on one condition.
"Time has passed, and I don't want any regrets down the road about not inviting her. So I extended an olive branch and invited them both- but with a very specific rule," she explained.
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"The rule (in my & fiancé's eyes) was minor, and would alleviate any stress or worries about them getting drunk & doing or saying something out of line on our big day."
The rule for the big day was that her mother could not drink at the ceremony or at the reception which, they thought, would remove stress.
However, when this rule was relayed to her mum, she was less than impressed and felt her daughter had no right to say what she could and could not do.
"I told her If she couldn't accept my one request and rule for our wedding, she was not welcome," explained the daughter
"I can't fathom not having her there for my big day, but also can't fathom the gong show she will make it if I allow her to drink."
In response to this, the mother has come under fire from other commenters with one Redditor saying: "Your mother is choosing drinking over you and is reminding you why you went no contact in the first place. You offered her a way back in and can move forward with no regrets."
However, another said: "This a boundary. And the fact she can’t promise to not drink for only a few hours should tell you she values booze over her relationship with you and your wedding. Consider her to have RSVP’d “no”."
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