Finding a dream partner is tricky in today's times and if things click somehow, you expect the relationship to be a smooth ride and begin to make long-term plans with them.
But what if this 'ideal partner' after a few dates becomes unpredictable and out of reach, and hesitate in making a long-term commitment? You may begin to suspect if there is someone else in their life. Guess what? It may be true. They may already have a romantic interest before they started dating you. There's a possibility you are being cookie-jarred.
Cookie jarring is yet another new-age dating concept where a person gets into a relationship to create a backup option while focusing their energy and attention on their primary preference. If you are being cookie-jarred, it means the person who's dating you will communicate with you, go on dates but won't commit to you, and treat you like an option. They don’t wish to have a long-term and committed relationship as they already have a main romantic interest. Cookie jarring is done to create a backup in case the primary relationship fails for some reason or the person is not available for some time.
Here are 5 signs you are being cookie-jarred.
They treat you like backupWhen you find a partner and you decide to stick with them, but they don't treat you with the same feelings and intentions, it can be really hurtful. If your partner doesn't treat you like you are their priority and as a backup, avoids your calls and texts, and doesn't show effort, it's a sign you are being cookie-jarred. For example, not showing effort or care in a relationship, and always acting cold and distant could be a tell-tale sign.
Unclear communication
If your partner doesn't communicate clearly with you, express their feelings or emotions, give you enough attention, or don't reassure you, it's a sign your partner is cookie-jarring you. For example, if you ask them to meet a few friends, but they do not give a clear answer, or you ask them to go out, but they make excuses, this could be a sign of cookie-jarring.
They don't want you to meet their friends
There is a thin line between keeping your relationship private and keeping it a secret. If your partner doesn't introduce you to their friend circle, then there is a possibility that it's a sign you are being cookie-jarred. For example, if your partner is meeting their friends, and you express your desire to join them, they may not agree to it.
They don't want commitment
Does your partner often say things like - 'let's live in the moment' or 'let's not put a tag on our relationship'. If they are running away from commitment, it's a sign you are being cookie-jarred.
They avoid talking about the future
Does your partner often change the topic when you talk about the future? They may not want to disclose their true feelings. It's a clear sign they are a red flag, and you are being cookie-jarred.
