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Manchester Evening News
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Sam Yarwood

Anthony Seddon took his own life. His legacy is now helping to save the lives of others.

Anthony Seddon took his own life on March 31, 2013.

He was 30-years-old.

The former Mossley Hollins school boy had suffered with mental ill-health for his entire adult life, having been diagnosed as bipolar when he was 18.

Over the next decade, Anthony was in and out of hospital.

He had been home for less than a week after being sectioned when he committed suicide.

"We had no idea that he had been showing signs of wanting to take his own life," mum Donna said.

Anthony was diagnosed with bipolar when he was 18 (The Anthony Seddon Fund)

"For years we weren't told anything about his mental health unless he told us himself, in the end we had to get a legal document signed to access information about his condition when Anthony wasn't able to give consent himself.

"But even then the information about him being suicidal wasn't shared.

"He showed all the classic signs of wanting to take his own life, but we weren't able to recognise them, we hadn't been told or given training and I always wonder if we'd known could there have been a different outcome?

"Could we have got him the help he needed, knowing something wasn't right?"

The Anthony Seddon Fund was set up in June 2014 by Donna Thomas and her husband Brian following the death of their son Anthony (ABNM Photography)

Following his death Anthony's family set up a market stall raising funds for charity MIND.

But it wasn't just donations and customers it attracted.

Over the years, more and more people would attend the stall for help and advice, some simply just wanting someone to talk to.

"It got to the stage where we knew we had to do something," Donna added.

"We opened a little charity shop and set up a room at the back so that we could sit down with people and support them in whatever they needed.

The Anthony Seddon Fund has been a registered charity for five years (ABNM Photography)

"From there it just grew and grew, it wasn't planned, but we just got bigger and bigger with more people coming in to talk than to actually buy anything."

The Anthony Seddon Fund has been a registered charity for over five years now, and has since found a spacious home on George Street in Ashton-under-Lyne.

On average, around 250-300 people a walk through its doors each week.

Many don't receive help elsewhere - they are often either too complex for primary care, or not severe enough for secondary care, meaning they slip through the cracks.

The charity is there to fill those gaps.

Anthony Seddon (The Anthony Seddon Fund)

Summer, Donna says, is a particularly busy time for them.

"You find the hot weather can cause issues, some people have scars from self-harming that they don't want to uncover in the heat, so instead they stay inside.

"Ashton is a much busier place in summer as well when the kids are off - shops, libraries, parks - some people feel less safe when there's more people around and they can isolate themselves and stop coming out.

"The change in routine can really throw them, and the holidays can also bring a lot of financial burden.

"But people know they are safe here.

The centre sees around 250-300 people a week (ABNM Photography)

"They can come and get that piece of mind that for some they don't even get inside their own home.

"If someone is having a bad day they will come to us - we've got a sensory room and people know we know what to do and who to contact if they need it.

"They know they won't be judged."

As well as daily drop-in sessions and support groups, the centre has become a community hub of sorts - also hosting activities such as knitting and sewing groups, art and music sessions, as well as meditation and Tai Chi.

Some who attend don't have mental health problems - they may just be lonely or vulnerable, with no where else to go.

"Loneliness is a real issue in Tameside," Donna said.

A jam session taking place at The Anthony Seddon Centre (ABNM Photography)

"We want to provide a place that people can go and meet up with like-minded people where they won't be judged. Having that to some people is huge.

"You wander around Ashton town centre now and it's completely changed, it's looking pretty desolate.

"Footfall has dropped and cafes and shops are closing down each week.

"If a person is not in work and on benefits and suffering with a mental illness, quite often they will go out into town for a brew and to speak to people, it's part of what keeps them well, but when they start to lose that companionship it can have a massive impact.

"People come to us now that started coming to us five years ago, it's part of their routine."

The Anthony Seddon Fund is ran primarily by a team of around 50 volunteers, as well as a handful of paid, trained staff.

Volunteers and centre users with Anthony's mum Donna and her husband Brian (ABNM Photography)

It also works with organisations such as Healthy Young Minds (formerly CAMHS), Pennine Care, Tameside council and Tameside Clinical Commissioning Group to provide drop-ins and counselling services to people who may not be, or feel able to access them elsewhere..

"Quite often young men can come across as angry," Donna said.

"They go to services for help and sometimes don't get past the door because they may shout or scream.

"These men are scared and frustrated.

"We get that, they come to us and we give them a little bit more time. We treat people in the way we would want our kids to be treated.

"Just because they're angry it doesn't mean they're going to hurt you."

Anthony was in and out of hospital most of his adult life (The Anthony Seddon Fund)

Donna recalls one man who came to their door, he was screaming and shouting, and she turned to him and said, 'tea or coffee?'.

To him that was a huge surprise, he was so used to being turned away and refused help because of his manner, and there was someone offering him a warm drink.

"He calmed down quite quickly after that," Donna said.

"There is this assumption that aggression comes with mental illness and men.

"Countless times we have called ambulances for women that need help and they've come, but when it's a man, they send police."

Donna says often it can take a lot of strength for someone to pluck up the courage to walk through the doors.

"You can be sat on reception and notice people walking past the window over and over again.

"They just can't pluck up the courage to come in.

Donna says often it can take a lot of strength for someone to pluck up the courage to walk through the doors (ABNM Photography)

"So I'll go out and ask them if they're okay, offer them a leaflet or a tour.

"On a typical day, we normally get one or two people coming in off the street.

"It's also rare a day goes by when we don't get someone coming in saying they want to take their life.

"But being able to come inside, have a brew and a natter, knowing they're not on their own - it makes a big impact."

There are many groups and projects currently running at The Anthony Seddon Centre, but The Talk Shop is one that Donna and husband Brian are particularly proud of.

The session on Thursdays is a peer support group for parents of children and young people aged 8-19 suffering with mental illness.

Donna says having somewhere to go and someone to speak to can make the world of difference to people (ABNM Photography)

It is a joint project with Off The Record and Healthy Young Minds.

"It can be incredibly isolating trying to cope with a teenager who has mental health problems," Donna said.

"Parents can come to this group and talk about their fears and what's worrying them - it works really well.

"The burden families have to carry is massive. They can wake up in the morning and think is their loved one still going to be with them tonight?

"That's why these sort of groups are so important."

Other groups include:

  • Daily drop in sessions run Monday to Friday from 12-3pm. These are open to those 18+ with mental health concerns, as well as friends and carers.
  • The Hearing Voices Group - peer support for those who hear voices and/or have visions - runs from 1-2.30pm on the second Tuesday of the month.
  • A Suicide Bereaved Support Group takes place from 5.30-7pm on the second Monday of each month.
  • The Anthony Seddon Fund is open Monday to Friday. It is closed Saturday and Sunday. For more information or for a full timetable call 0161 376 4439, email office@tasfund.org.uk, or pop in and speak to someone.

On September 10, The Anthony Seddon Fund will host an event at Ryecroft Hall to mark World Suicide Prevention Day.

It will take place from 6.30-8.30pm and feature information stalls by local mental health charities/support groups, as well as guest speakers talking about how suicide has affected them.

There will also be a candlelit vigil to remember loved ones.

All are invited.

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