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Mantas Kačerauskas

“Always Read The Wedding Invitation Small Print”: 2 Guests Leave Wedding Mortified

Weddings are supposed to be this joyous event, a celebration of love with one’s friends and family around. But, let’s face it, they can also be pretty costly affairs, so some folks decided to cut corners, often in the wrong places.

A woman was surprised to learn that the fine print of her wedding invitation precluded her from attending the dinner reception after the ceremony. We got in touch with the wedding planners at Bespoke Bride to learn a bit more about this practice. Bored Panda has reached out to OP via private message and will update the article when they get back to us.

Some couples decide to be selective when picking who can attend what at their wedding

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But one woman was shocked to learn that her invitation contained fine print not allowing her into the dinner reception

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Selective invitations are not at all common

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Bored Panda got in touch with Jhona Yellin, Editor at Bespoke Bride to learn more about “selective invitations.” First and foremost, we wanted to hear just how common or uncommon it is to only allow some guests to attend certain parts of the whole wedding. “While it’s not unheard of for couples to invite certain guests to only specific parts of the wedding, such as the ceremony or reception, it’s definitely not the norm,” she shared.

To be fair, weddings aren’t cheap. Some research indicates that, on average, a US wedding costs around $30,000. The number one reason a couple might choose to not include everyone is the cost of wining and dining them. While there are a handful of other reasons, for example wanting a very intimate reception but a big ceremony, this is, for the most part, still seen as tacky.

“In most cases, guests are invited to both the ceremony and reception as a way to share in the entirety of the celebration. However, there are instances where couples may have limitations on the number of guests they can accommodate for dinner or may opt for a more intimate ceremony followed by a larger reception,” Jhona Yellin shared with Bored Panda.

Weddings are complicated, so it’s good to have some contingency plans

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“Communication is key in these situations, and it’s important for couples to be transparent with their guests about the details of their invitation. I recommend following the wedding guest list tips we created a while back. Providing clear information about which parts of the wedding guests are invited to can help manage expectations and avoid any confusion or hurt feelings.”

It’s worth noting that, for better or worse, there are some decent reasons as to why the “happy couple” might want to be selective about guests. Alcohol and partying can bring out the worst in some folks. In other cases, someone’s past experience with a guest ruining a wedding might make them anxious about their own event.

“Ultimately, the decision to invite guests to specific portions of the wedding is a personal one for each couple, and what may be common or uncommon can vary based on individual circumstances and cultural norms,” Jhona Yellin shared as a good rule of thumb. Sometimes, it’s the people you are closest who end up being the issue anyway.

Excluding guests is downright tacky in most cases

After all, weddings can be absolutely drama-packed events, where emotions end up running high even when everything is going to plan. However, as OP notes, it is pretty tacky to not make this clear from the get-go. OP herself says that this is just a coworker, so it wouldn’t be completely out of line to mention that she is only invited to the ceremony.

Instead, the couple added this clause to the fine print, leading to the awkward encounter OP describes. Furthermore, she drove a pretty long distance, only to learn that she wouldn’t even be served dinner. Readers were right to call out this coworker from a tacky and frankly insulting bit of wedding planning.

Netizens shared their reactions

A few also gave their own “tacky wedding” examples

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