A piece of wisdom you’ve likely heard is not to expect too much to avoid disappointment, even heartbreak. Reality moves to its own beat and can either exceed those presumptions, if you’re lucky, or throw a monkey wrench on them.
Here are some visual examples of that constant battle between expectations and reality. Some of these photos feature surpassed expectations, which is always a joyful outcome. On the flip side, you will also see images that are likely to induce facepalms and chuckles.
These are some of the top posts from the Expectation vs. Reality subreddit. Enjoy scrolling!
#1 The Brief My 8 Year Old Niece Gave Me For Her Birthday Cake And The Finished Cake
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#2 Otterly Impressive Birthday Cake From My Mom!
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#3 Cake My Son Requested vs. What We Received
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There is nothing wrong with having expectations. However, it becomes a problem when it affects how you run your life. Experts like author and health educator Dr. Elizabeth Scott refer to this as the “Expectations vs. Reality Trap,” which, among other things, can make us less grateful.
“When our expectations outpace reality, it often means we don't appreciate what we do have,” Dr. Scott explained in an article for Very Well Mind, noting that it may lead to comparisons, which is a known thief of joy.
#4 The Way We Advertise Our Jack-O-Lantern Pizzas vs. The Way I Like To Make Them For Customers
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#5 The Inspiration And How It Turned Out
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#6 I Think It Turned Out Pretty Well!
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Dr. Scott brought up an important point: social media has become a catalyst for the significant stress brought on by unmet expectations. Many people tend to do this by comparing their worst days to someone’s best moments, all of which are the product of hard work and fumbling along the way.
“We may not even realize this mismatched comparison. This may be part of why those who spend more time on social media tend to be less happy,” Dr. Scott wrote.
#7 Made My Niece's Birthday Cake (On The Right)
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#8 Guard Dog
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#9 I Needed A Cartoon Cake And Only Gave This Picture For Inspiration. This Was The Final Product!
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On the topic of expectations and happiness, Yale University professor Robb Rutledge says it happens in the little daily moments, like when ordering a meal at a restaurant and bringing preconceived notions to the experience.
“You’re taking a risk there: Your meal could be better than you expected, or it could be worse than you expected,” Rutledge said in an interview with UC Berkley’s Greater Good Magazine.
#10 This Patch I Ordered Off Amazon
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#11 My Attempt At A Tulip Wreath I Found On Pinterest
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#12 My Mom Made An Elsa Cake
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Others may flip the script and have low expectations to cushion the blow of potential disappointment. Rutledge says there is a downside to this mindset, as well.
As he explained, expecting things not to go well may lead to a lack of motivation to try new things or take risks. Rutledge noted, “It’s hard to grow as a person if you avoid any uncertain situation.”
#13 Well, It Fits The Cat
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#14 Handsome
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#15 The Birthday Cake My Wife Made For Our Daughter
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Apart from avoiding marketing comparisons, especially on social media, or considering what makes you happy, how can we manage our expectations? Dr. Scott shares one essential pro tip: practicing gratitude and emotional acceptance.
As she explained, doing the former makes a person feel more appreciative of what they have, while the latter is about taking negative emotions as they are, rather than suppressing them.
#16 A Portion From The Lawsuit Suing Taco Bell For False Advertising
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#17 In Japan, One Should Expect To Get What One Expects
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#18 Ordered From Grocery Store. Cupcake 'Cake' For My Daughters Birthday. Pleasantly Surprised!
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#19 Birthday Cake I Asked For vs. What I Got
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#20 My Mom Made This Duck Cake; Turned Out Pretty Well
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#21 My Mom‘S Birthday Cake
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#22 Think My Wife Did Very Well On This One
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#23 My Attempt On The Right
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#24 I Think We Did A Pretty Decent Job With My Nieces Birthday Cake
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#25 Merry Christmas Everyone!
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#26 I Got This Ice Cream Bar From A 7 Eleven Store In Tokyo And It Was Exactly The Same As In Picture. Plus It Was Delicious!
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#27 Netflix
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#28 My Wife's McDonald's Cone In The Drive Through Last Night
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#29 My Darth Maul Birthday Cake Ate Too Much Cake
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#30 ...squirrels
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#31 Subway Sued For Exaggerating Meat By 200%
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#32 What My Sister Asked For vs. What The Salon Did vs. What My Mom Did After The Salon Disaster
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#33 Tried Making The Momofuku Milk Bar Cake
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#34 I've Been Staring At This Cutie On Fb Marketplace For Weeks
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#35 I Knew I Was Taking A Gamble Ordering From Wish.... But Still, I Couldnt Stop Laughing When My Blanket Finally Arrived!
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#36 Don't Think I'll Be Wearing My New Shirt To Work
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#37 I Feel Like Majority Of The Applebee’s Menu Is Expectationvsreality
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#38 These Shoes
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#39 American Cherry Pie Frapuccino In Japan
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#40 Every Time
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#41 Husband Tried To Make A Dolphin For My Cocktail. It's The Cutest Eel I've Ever Seen
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#42 I Bought This Bob Ross Chia Pet . . . These Are Not Happy Trees
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#43 Taking Pictures Of Your Pets. [oc]
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#44 Alien Balloons
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#45 Ordered A Cake For My Father’s Birthday
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#46 Are You Kidding Me
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#47 The Top Is Pottery That My Mom Got In Germany, The Bottom Is My Attempt To Make It In My Ceramics Class ://
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#48 My Wife’s Felting Project
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#49 My Kid Cried
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#50 My Friend Bought This Costume Online And I’ve Been Laughing All Day
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#51 Spike
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#52 Bought Tickets To See Creed In Concert. Saw Creed In Concert!
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#53 These Things Never Work Out, Do They?
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#54 The Crystal Mug My Boyfriend Ordered Me For Our Anniversary vs. What We Actually Received
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#55 Expectation vs. Reality After A 6-Month Backorder From West Elm
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#56 Tattoo Artist Ftw
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#57 What Scientists Predicted The Black Hole Would Look Like vs. How It Actually Looks
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#58 Halloween Treat Looks Like A Bad Trick
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#59 Mildly Disappointed But Very Amused
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#60 The Cake I Ordered vs. What I Got
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#61 I Feel Robbed Of My Chocolate
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#62 Minnie Gained Some Weight
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#63 Thanks KFC, Totally What I Expected /S
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#64 Room Service At The Hotel I'm Staying At, I Was So Excited Too
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#65 My Buddy Ordered A This Pillow For His Daughter
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#66 Breakfast Jackpot
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#67 Amazon Prime Day
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#68 Tried A Mirror Glaze
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#69 I Ordered Bruschetta From My Local Pizza Shop
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#70 Creepy
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#71 Guess I Won’t Be Reaping That Norway Scenery Karma
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#72 What My Mother Ordered vs. What She Got
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#73 I Paid 8 Dollars For This At The Cinemas
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#74 Elsa Cake
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#75 Underwater Scene Puzzle My Kids Got
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#76 My Husband Warned Me His Gift For Me Wasn't Nearly As Nice As It Looked Online. I Cracked Up When I Opened It And Saw The Crystal Mug(S) So Many Have Been Duped By
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#77 Ordered A Birthday Cake And Received Slop
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#78 Mom Ordered A Coat For Almost $60
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#79 Shirt I Ordered vs. What I Got
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#80 This Mug
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#81 These Sly, Sly Bastards
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#82 "Please End Me"
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#83 My Vacation In Rio And Seeing The Cristo
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#84 Thanks Domino's. I Hate It
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#85 Cinnamonroll Birthday Cake, What I Sent vs. What I Got…
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#86 What I Ordered vs. What I Received
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#87 Giant Teddy Bear
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#88 A Texas Sized Disappointment
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#89 Close Enough
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#90 Taken From Twitter "(Got Me )looking Like A Gay Priest"
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#91 Ordered A Champion Sweatshirt On Ebay. Received A Hanes Sweatshirt With A Champion Logo Glued On
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#92 I Ordered Some Acoustic Sound Panels. And People Complain About Their Big Macs
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#93 The Mask I Ordered (Left) vs. The Mask I Got (Right)
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#94 I Travelled All This Way Because Of Reddit
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