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Viktorija Ošikaitė

50 Women Who Were Called Out Online For Their Delusional Behavior (New Pics)

Emotional intelligence is underrated. Behaving like an entitled, toxic, hypocritical, immature, and manipulative human being is something that doesn’t give a damn about gender. In pop culture, so-called ‘nice guys’ and ‘nice girls’ are folks who pretend to be kind, only to show their true colors the moment things don’t go their way. They can’t take ‘no’ for an answer, say, when they get rejected by their romantic interests.

The ‘Nice Girls’ subreddit is a popular online forum where people share some of the worst examples of people being disingenuous for the sake of approval and love. Scroll down to check out how these individuals communicate online so that you know what red flags to look out for. Oh, and keep in mind that this is all about calling out toxic behavior. There’s no room for sexism here.

#1 Nice Girl Found In The Wild

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The bad news is that emotional intelligence (abbreviated as EQ or EI) doesn’t come naturally to all people. The good news? Like any other skill, you can learn and develop it.

The Harvard Business Review explains that there are 4 main components of EQ. These are:

Self-awareness: identifying your emotions and how they affect other people
Self-regulation: managing your emotions and behaviors to control your disruptive impulses
Social awareness: being empathetic and understanding the emotions of others
Social skills: the ability to build and maintain healthy relationships through teamwork, inspiration, influence, conflict management, etc.

#2 This Person Broke Up With Me For Breaking Up With Them

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#3 Unreal, I Can't Escape Them

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HBR notes that individuals who have high emotional intelligence understand the links between their emotions and behavior. They also handle stress well, remaining calm, cool, and collected when things get tense. Meanwhile, they’re able to effectively use diplomacy and tact to handle difficult people.

On the other side of the scale, people with low EQ:

Get upset very easily
Get overwhelmed by their emotions
Often feel misunderstood
Have problems being assertive

#4 Whole Grown Beautiful Woman Demands Dinner

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#5 We Had One Date. All Of This Was Texted Over A Span Of A Couple Of Days

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#6 Back Story: We Talked A Few Years Ago. Never Dated, Because Of The “The World Is Always Against Me” Behavior You’ll See Below

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“We are all having emotions all the time. The question is whether you are aware of these emotions and the impact they have on your behavior—and other people,” Margaret Andrews, the instructor of Emotional Intelligence in Leadership, former associate dean at Harvard University’s Division of Continuing Education, and executive director at the MIT Sloan School of Management, told Harvard Business Review.

Andrews added that people with strong self-regulation can take a deep breath during stressful situations, remain calm, and think before speaking or acting. On the other hand, individuals with low EQ, who can’t contain their impulses and negative emotions, “often set off a chain reaction of negative emotions in others.”

#7 Sorry For Asking About Your Interests I Guess?

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#8 Started Talking For About A Month

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#9 Thought This Brief Exchange Was Amusing

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Broadly speaking, ‘nice guys’ and ‘nice girls’ are incredibly insecure. So, they resort to manipulation and pretence to get what they want.

Usually, they pretend to be nice (hence the name), kind, caring, and empathetic to create the illusion that they could be great people to date. When, in reality, they don’t have confidence, emotional intelligence, or genuine respect for others’ boundaries. In short, getting into a relationship with them would be a major mistake.

#10 Does This Qualify?

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#11 After Opening With Saying Her Greatest Strength Was Kindness, Then Saying My Flannel Shirt Was The Ugliest Outfit She’d Ever Seen, She Hit Me With This

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#12 I’m Legitimately Curious Could I Have Handled This Better?

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It’s not always obvious that someone’s only pretending to be the caring, mature, ‘genuine’ person they appear to be. Sometimes, you don’t pick up on the (not-so) subtle red flags. Other times, you want to believe someone’s better than they really are.

Red-flag behaviors that indicate that you might be stuck in a toxic relationship include things like your partner not supporting you, hostile communication, extreme selfishness, not caring about your needs, and a constant environment of hostility, envy, and jealousy.

#13 All Men Suck

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#14 Wanted Me To Be Obsessed After 2 Dates…

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#15 “I Make A Lot Of Money More Than Others.” So That Gives The Right To Ask A Rude Question

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According to Healthline, toxic partners are very controlling, dishonest, disrespectful, and pile on physical and mental stress.

They drain you, cut you off from your other social relationships, and make you feel as though you’re walking on eggshells.

Something’s very wrong if you feel like you can’t talk about serious issues with your significant other in an open, honest, healthy way.

#16 She Seems Pretty Nice

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#17 Michelin Stars Only

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#18 Am I Crazy?

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As per Verywell Mind, toxic significant others deplete your energy and make you feel devalued. These individuals blame you, disrespect your boundaries, and undermine your confidence.

You feel like you always have to cheer them up. Meanwhile, you’re constantly exhausted, angry, tired, and depressed. If you’re chronically unhappy after spending time with your romantic partner, you are not in a healthy relationship.

#19 Seemed To Take Rejection Well, Till She Posted Me On “Are We Dating The Same Guy”

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#20 Bpd “E-Girl” Update

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#21 I Thought I Blocked Her…

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The ‘Nice Girls’ subreddit is incredibly well-known. Created in the autumn of 2011, over the years, it has amassed a following of 1.2 million members.

The moderators stress the fact that you should never include anyone’s personal information in the posts you share on the sub. What’s more, there’s absolutely no space for sexism, racism, or any kind of intolerance.

#22 Glad I Dodged A Bullet

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#23 She Already Knew I Was Going To Be Watching A Movie

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#24 Girlfriend Loses Her Mind Because I Didn’t Get Her Food That She Specifically Told Me Not To Get

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According to the moderators keeping the community running smoothly, so-called ‘nice girls’ are women who complain that men are supposedly shallow while hypocritically focusing on their looks themselves.

They are also women who “hold others to the highest possible standard, but have no standards for themselves.”

#25 A Nice Girl

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#26 "Long Time Listener, First Time Caller"

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#27 One Of The Worst Profiles I've Seen

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Who are some of the worst ‘nice guys’ and ‘nice girls’ that you’ve ever interacted with, Pandas? How did they try to manipulate? How did they react when you rejected them? Were there any subtle red flags that showed their true colors? What do you think could help them become more self-aware, emotionally intelligent individuals?

If you feel like sharing your thoughts on this sensitive topic, you can do so in the comments at the very bottom of this post. See you there.