Let’s be honest—kids are master negotiators, and they know exactly which buttons to push to get what they want. Parents, on the other hand, are often tired, stretched thin, and just trying to make it through the day without a meltdown (from anyone). That’s how even the most well-meaning caregivers end up caving to some truly unreasonable demands kids make. It’s not about being a pushover—it’s about survival. But when giving in becomes the norm, it can send the wrong message and create bigger issues down the road.
1. “I Want a Snack—But Not That One!”
If you’ve ever offered five snack options and still ended up with a meltdown, you’re not alone. One of the most common unreasonable demands kids make is insisting on a snack—then rejecting every single thing you suggest. This power play often has little to do with hunger and more to do with control. While occasional pickiness is normal, constantly giving in reinforces the idea that parents are short-order chefs. Setting clear limits and sticking to set snack options helps restore balance—and sanity.
2. “Carry Me!” (Even Though They Can Walk)
It doesn’t matter if the child is perfectly capable of walking—or even running laps five minutes earlier. When a child demands to be carried everywhere, it can feel easier to just scoop them up than deal with the whining. But constantly giving in to this unreasonable demand can create unrealistic expectations for daily routines. Of course, sometimes kids need comfort, but when this becomes the norm, it can wear parents out physically and emotionally. Encouraging independence (with compassion) builds both confidence and stamina.
3. “I Want It Now!”
Whether it’s a toy at the store, a new app, or a snack five minutes before dinner, kids love instant gratification. And with so many things available at the push of a button, the world has made it easier than ever to meet their demands in real time. But when parents always say “yes” to avoid a tantrum, they miss the opportunity to teach patience and delayed gratification. Unreasonable demands kids make in the moment can have long-term effects on impulse control and entitlement. Sometimes, the best answer is “not right now.”
4. “No Bedtime Tonight!”
Bedtime battles are a universal parenting struggle. And while every family has late nights now and then, allowing kids to regularly push bedtime later and later usually ends in chaos. Kids might demand “five more minutes” that turn into thirty or insist they’re not tired even though their yawns say otherwise. Parents may cave out of guilt or exhaustion but doing so chips away at routines that promote healthy sleep and better behavior. Consistency is the antidote to these unreasonable demands, even when it’s tough.
5. “I Don’t Want to Wear That!”
Clothing battles can start as early as toddlerhood and last into the teen years. A child insisting they’ll only wear their superhero pajamas to school—or that nothing “feels right”—can turn mornings into power struggles. While giving kids some say in their wardrobe is great for independence, letting them rule the closet with wild demands can lead to unnecessary stress. Striking a balance between choice and practicality is key. Letting kids make limited choices within parent-approved options can help avoid these daily debates.
6. “I Don’t Want That Chore—Give Me a Different One!”
Asking a child to take out the trash and getting “I’ll only feed the cat” in response is another classic example of unreasonable demands kids make. Delegating chores is part of building responsibility, but some kids will negotiate endlessly to get the “easier” task. When parents constantly adjust chores to appease resistance, kids learn they can avoid effort with enough complaints. Instead, rotate chores fairly or assign tasks without offering alternatives. A little discomfort today can teach resilience for tomorrow.
7. “Buy Me That or I’ll Throw a Fit!”
Public meltdowns over toys or candy can make any parent sweat—and the temptation to give in is real. But when kids learn that tantrums equal rewards, they’ll keep using them as a strategy. This is one of the most manipulative unreasonable demands kids make, and it’s tough to undo once it becomes a habit. Calm consistency is the key. Saying “no” once and sticking to it—no matter how loud the protest—sends a powerful message that boundaries matter.
Empowering Parents to Reclaim the Lead
Parenting isn’t about being perfect. It’s about staying grounded when your child tests limits (because they will). When you learn to spot the unreasonable demands kids make and respond with firm, loving boundaries, you’re not just managing behavior—you’re teaching life skills. Kids need limits just as much as they need love, and saying “no” doesn’t make you a bad parent. It makes you a strong one.
Which unreasonable demand do your kids try to sneak past you the most? Share your funniest or most frustrating examples in the comments!
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