Modern dating is exciting and opens up many possibilities. However, it is also risky since you are meeting strangers from the internet. Therefore, safety must be your priority, putting well-being above being polite.
Fortunately, you don’t need an interrogation lamp; you just need conversation. Casual questions often reveal character better than a background check. Here are the dating safety questions to ask early to screen out the dangerous ones.
1. “How did your last relationship end?”
Listen closely to the answer. Specifically, does he blame her entirely, or does he call her “crazy” and “psycho”?
Consequently, a lack of accountability is a massive red flag. Healthy men own their part in a breakup. Beware the eternal victim who has never done anything wrong. Ultimately, how he speaks of her is exactly how he will speak of you one day.
2. “What makes you really angry?”
This seems innocent; however, it reveals triggers. For example, does he mention road rage, incompetence at work, or slow service?
Watch his body language. If he gets worked up just talking about it, caution is needed. Unfortunately, anger management issues often surface here. Safe men regulate their emotions well and don’t see anger as a solution. You want a partner with a long fuse.
3. “How do you spend your free time?”
You are looking for isolation. Does he have friends and hobbies outside the home, or does he just game alone?
Men with zero social circle often become possessive. As a result, they rely on you for all entertainment and emotional support. That is a heavy burden. Conversely, a balanced life is a green flag. You want someone who has a community.
4. “What is your relationship with alcohol?”
Substance abuse fuels violence. Therefore, ask casually over a drink menu. For instance, ask, “Do you drink often?” or “What’s your drink of choice?”
If he brags about blacking out, take note. Additionally, if he needs a drink to relax after work every day, that is a warning sign. Sobriety or moderation is always safer. You need someone who is present and in control of their faculties.
5. “How do you handle disagreements?”
Ask for an example of a conflict at work. Does he withdraw and stonewall, yell, or does he need to win every argument?
Conflict is inevitable, but cruelty is not. You need a partner who fights fair and aims for resolution. Look for a collaborative mindset, not a combative one. Remember, if he dominates the story, he will dominate you.
6. “What do you think about [Current Women’s Issue]?”
Bring up a news topic related to women’s rights or safety to gauge his respect. Specifically, does he dismiss women’s concerns as “whining”?
Regrettably, misogyny is often subtle, yet this question brings it to the light. Respect is non-negotiable. If he mocks the topic, he doesn’t respect you. Simply put, you cannot date someone who does not view women as equals.
7. “No.” (Not a question, but a test)
Set a small boundary early in the date. For example, say no to a drink or say no to a venue change. Then, watch the reaction closely.
Does he push back and try to convince you, or does he sulk and get cold? Ultimately, a man who respects you will accept a “no” without issue. This is the ultimate safety test because his reaction tells you everything about his need for control.
Trust Your Instincts
These dating safety questions are filters. In short, they protect your heart and your physical safety. Don’t be afraid to ask them.
You are the prize; however, you are also the gatekeeper. Therefore, vet ruthlessly. It is better to be safe and single than to be in a dangerous relationship.
Stop guessing and start vetting. Your safety is worth the awkwardness of asking the tough questions. Have you ever spotted a red flag just in time? Share your story in the comments to help others stay safe.
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