30 People Share The Dating Red Flags They Wish They’d Seen Sooner
Maybe it's their tendency to abuse substances or rude behavior towards waiters, but red flags in a relationship are indicators that something needs to be questioned. However, our mind sometimes talks itself into disregarding what our intuition is picking up on.
So when Reddit user Loxomednurmusci asked everyone on the platform to share the biggest dating warning signs that many ignore way too often, people were quick to reply. Most adults are still skeptical of whether algorithms can predict love, so we can't neglect our social skills.
Cruelty to animals.“My ex just left one day out of the blue. I came home and her stuff was gone”.
Ladies if you hear this, run.
Abusers know they can’t say my ex was crazy nowadays. This is the new version of it. The woman likely had to flee for safety. Her family members likely had to protect her after fleeing. There’s a reason he couldn’t find her after she left.If his friends are racist, sexist, homophobic, etc, but he claims he's not like them.... He is exactly like them, he just learned to hide it better.When they are rude to everyone but you, big red flagInsults masked as joking
“Oh that’s just his sense of humor..” No. He’s just disguising his honesty with jokes.If the other person doesn’t exhibit some level of curiosity about you. When there’s chemistry, you want to know more about the other person because you find them interesting. If you find yourself carrying the conversation, trying to learn about the other person but they show no interest in learning about you, then it’s a sure sign that there’s no compatibility. Don’t take it personally—no one can be everyone’s cup of tea and it’s better to know that from the beginning.They unsettle you. There's a nagging instinct urging you to keep your distance, even though they appear fine on the surface. An internal conflict arises. Don't dismiss this feeling as a flaw in your character or a result of past traumas. If your intuition is screaming at you to flee, heed its warning no matter how 'alright' the other person may seem. Ignoring it will only amplify the persistent unease, making it increasingly challenging to leave the person.If it bothers you now, it will surely bother you later, only way worse. Lol.Love bombing! Learn to identify it and then DON’T ignore it. It’s not love - it’s a con.Not being polite to service workers.He hadn't actually told his ex they were broken up, just that they needed to "take a break." I should have taken a break too at that point.If you are not on the same page with money, this leads to a lot of problems should the relationship get seriousWhen they can't attribute their own fault or shortcoming to a single problem they face in life. Today, it's their parents or boss. Tomorrow it will be you.When people ignore the fact the other person dont put in effort.
It always buffles me how many people jumping through hoops while getting nothing in return...Person already being in a relationship
Like, you think this person that’s cheating on their partner will suddenly turn into a person that you can trust is some funny s**t.Love is blind. So blind, that people are often willing to overlook small differences in values and/or needs because it might not matter much in the beginning of a relationship and see it as a "necessary compromise and love will conquer all", but oftentimes those little differences will become huge problems later in the relationship (most often when children becomes part of the equation).Constantly cancelling because their entire life is so busy. Like, on Saturday evenings?When they s**t talk every ex.Find out your date has his own photos as phone background.. Just run!"All of my exes are b****** or aholes." What's the common denominator here? *you*.Being TOO close to their mom.Little white lies should be one of the higher ones in this list. You see them lie to other people or family without a second thought, even about stupid stuff. Trust me, it only gets bigger and worse as time goes on.Little care when in the wrong, never showing any accountability for basically anything.If he has a burner phone, runTheir relationship history. Specifically cheating.Emotional unavailability.Someone who is constantly changing jobs. I don't mean they work for 6 months for one place, get a better position at another company for 1.5 years, then go to a different company. That's normal career growth.
If someone is quitting jobs every few months, even if they immediately get a new job they are not stable.Mistaking outer beauty for inner beauty..A red flag that people often overlook when dating is inconsistency in communication or behavior. For example, if someone is extremely attentive and communicative one day, but then disappears or becomes distant the next without explanation, it could indicate underlying issues or mixed intentions.Constantly asking your partner if they find random people in public or on TV attractive. In my experience, when they’re asking this, there is no right answer.
Every once in a while is one thing, but if you find yourself walking around looking at your feet all the time, there might be an issue.
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