Fights are normal in a relationship and can sometimes make you stronger as a couple. Arguments can help resolve issues and address resentment, strengthening your bond. After an argument or a big fight, a heartfelt apology can help ease the tension and reassure the other that minor conflicts will not affect their bond.
Apologising to your partner isn't just about saying 'sorry'. If conveyed in the wrong way, an apology can do more harm than the fight. Saying things like - 'I'm sorry this happened, but you provoked me' or 'I'm sorry for hurting you, but maybe you are just too sensitive' - means you are trying to blame your partner for what happened instead of feeling genuinely apologetic. Apologies should be heartfelt, carefully worded, and genuine.
Here are 5 simple ways to tell your partner you are sorry:
1. Apologise in personAlways try to apologise in person as texts or calls in such cases can lead to miscommunication. Sometimes, you do not need to say anything at all and your body language can do all the talking. Apologizing in person creates space for communication and encourage active listening and clarifying.
2. Write a letter
There are times when your presence can add fuel to the fire. In such cases, you can pick up pen and paper to write an apology. Taking responsibility for your actions and detailing in which circumstances it happened in the letter can save you the embarrassment of talking about the incident in person.
3. Make amends
Once you have apologized to your partner in person or written a letter, your next step should be trying to make amends. Take them out on a date, plan something special, and do their favourite things to assure them that you are there for them no matter what. Be a good listener and try to resolve their doubts about the fight/ Be considerate of their feelings and apologize. A simple sorry doesn't fix everything.
4. Work on your issues
Unless you resolve your issues, chances are that you will fight over the same things again and again. When everything settles down and you are back to being a lovey-dovey couple you are, try to work on things that led to the fight in the first place. This will ensure you can move forward in the relationship with increased trust and stronger bond.
5. Tell them - you are special
After every fight, it's important to convey to your partner how special they are in your life. This is not just part of an apology, but also a mantra to keep the spark alive in your relationship alive.
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