Writing a will is one of those tasks most people put off. It feels uncomfortable, maybe even a little scary. But having a clear, well-written will is one of the best ways to protect your loved ones and make sure your wishes are followed. The words you use matter—a lot. One wrong phrase can cause confusion, legal battles, or even make your will invalid. If you want your assets to go where you intend, you need to be careful about what you say and how you say it. Here are ten things you should never say when writing a will, and why avoiding them can save your family a lot of trouble.
1. “I leave everything to my family.”
This sounds simple, but it’s too vague. Who is “my family”? Does it include your spouse, children, siblings, or even distant cousins? Courts need specifics. If you don’t name people, your will can be challenged or ignored. Always list full names and relationships. If you want to include or exclude someone, say so directly. This avoids confusion and arguments later.
2. “My wishes are obvious.”
Nothing is obvious in legal documents. What seems clear to you might not be clear to others. If you assume people will “just know” what you want, you’re setting up your loved ones for stress and possible legal fights. Spell out your wishes in plain language. Don’t leave room for guessing.
3. “I want my assets divided fairly.”
“Fairly” means different things to different people. One child might think equal shares are fair, while another thinks they deserve more because they cared for you. The court can’t enforce fairness—it can only implement what’s written. Be specific about who gets what. If you want to explain your reasoning, add a letter, but keep the will itself clear and direct.
4. “I trust my executor to decide.”
Your executor’s job is to carry out your instructions, not make decisions for you. If you leave choices up to them, you’re giving them too much power and opening the door to disputes. List your wishes in detail. If you want your executor to have some flexibility, say exactly what decisions they can make and under what circumstances.
5. “I leave my house to my children, but they can work out the details.”
This is a recipe for conflict. If you own a home, specify exactly who will inherit it, how it should be sold, and how the proceeds will be divided. If you want your children to share the house, explain how that should work. Should they sell it? Can one buy out the others? The more details you give, the less likely your kids will end up fighting in court.
6. “I leave my jewelry to whoever wants it.”
Personal items like jewelry, art, or family heirlooms often cause the most arguments. If you don’t name who gets what, you’re inviting trouble. List each item and the person you want to have it. If you want your executor to distribute items, give them a clear process to follow, like drawing names or letting people choose in a set order.
7. “If anyone contests this will, they get nothing.”
This is called a “no-contest clause.” While it sounds tough, it doesn’t always work. Some states don’t enforce these clauses, and they can make things worse if someone feels left out. If you’re worried about challenges, talk to an estate attorney about better ways to protect your wishes.
8. “I leave my money to my pets.”
You can’t leave money directly to animals. Pets are considered property, not people. If you want to care for your pets, set up a pet trust or name a caretaker and leave them funds for your pet’s care. Be clear about who gets the pet and how much money is for their needs.
9. “I’ll update this later.”
Don’t put off important decisions. If you write a will and plan to “fix it later,” you might never get the chance. Life changes fast. If you want to make changes, do it now. Update your will whenever your life changes—marriage, divorce, new children, or big purchases. An outdated will can cause as many problems as no will at all.
10. “I don’t need witnesses.”
Most states require at least two witnesses to validate a will. Some require more. If you skip this step, your will might not hold up in court. Ensure that your witnesses are not individuals who stand to benefit from the will. Follow your state’s rules exactly, or your wishes might not be honored.
Clear Words, Clear Wishes
Writing a will isn’t just about listing who gets what. It’s about making your wishes clear so your loved ones don’t have to guess or fight. Avoid vague language, wishful thinking, and shortcuts. Take the time to be specific and follow the rules. Your family will appreciate it.
Have you seen a will cause confusion or conflict? What phrases do you think people should avoid? Share your thoughts in the comments.
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