Unfortunately, some romantic stories—whether lasting a couple of years or an entire decade—are not meant to become a happily ever after. But that doesn’t mean one can’t find happiness with someone else.
This redditor’s friend ended a relationship with her long-term partner, who she was even planning on marrying. While that in itself might not be surprising, what was is the fact that she attended the wedding without him and married a different groom instead. Scroll down for the full story.
Some couples fail to stand the test of time
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This redditor’s friend made a “last-minute” change of groom before her wedding
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Many people find love again after an unsuccessful relationship
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While there’s always the what if scenario, no couple starts their relationship or plans to take it to the next level thinking that it will fail. However, that’s quite often the case, sometimes even after years of staying together. While studies show that the longer the relationship, the more likely it is to last (compared to its very beginning, at least) chances of people going their separate ways are unfortunately never zero.
Be that as it may, the chances of meeting someone new are arguably also not a round 0. Many people who’ve gone through a relationship ending find another significant other over time. Take marriage, for instance; while the percentage of remarried people is higher among those of older age, people of all ages can and have said “I do” for the second time, Pew Research Center reports.
According to said source, back in 2013, roughly two-thirds of people aged 55 to 64 who’ve been married before have taken the step for the second time; out of those 65 and older, roughly half did. As for the younger demographic, by the same year, roughly 42% of people 35 and younger who’ve previously been married or were widowed decided to remarry.
In the case of the OP’s friend, it was the first marriage, but it wasn’t the groom most of her friends expected to see standing by her side on the big day. Looking in hindsight, with all the information they learned later, the woman’s friends believed she did the right thing by choosing “Michael” over “John”, which likely happened because of the things she learned or realized in her previous relationship.
According to the licensed marriage and family therapist Stephen J. Betchen, “Knowing yourself and who you are attracted to on the deepest level is the way to prevent replication; it may be the key to avoiding a poor choice the second time around.”
People have different reasons to marry, but love remains the main one
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The OP revealed that the bride had had thoughts about leaving “Michael” while in the relationship, but she likely felt somewhat obligated to marry him after spending so many years together. Coming from society, people around them, or sometimes even the person themselves, the pressure to marry, have children, or take any other important step in life can be a significant factor to some (or at least food for thought and quite often—anxiety).
Whether or not that pressure is a valid reason to marry, for instance, remains a personal choice; but some reasons to take the step seem to be more common than others. According to a survey on why people get married or move in with a partner, the majority do it because of—you guessed it—love. But one-in-five people reportedly marry because they want to test the relationship, and one-in-ten do it out of convenience.
Whether it was love, convenience, or other reasons “Sarah” chose to marry “Michael”, it was seemingly the right thing to do, as even if not on the very first try, they seemed to have found their happily ever after.
People discussed the happening in the comments, some even shared similar stories
